Reclaim your erotic power through embodiment, consent, and conscious kink.
Somatic sex, kink & relationship coaching for the curious, the brave, and the becoming.
Shame Free, People Forward.
core offerings
1:1 & group coaching
Personalized, trauma-informed coaching rooted in practicing relational and intimacy skills. We work with the real-time feelings & experiences as they present themselves in session. We create an intimacy lab together. In this lab we explore areas such as: nervous system regulation, communication of our wants & needs, core sexual desires, and erotic embodiment to help you live in alignment with your desire so that you can have the must fulfilling sex life & intimate relationships.
Workshops & EVENTS
Live, interactive experiences exploring kink, role-play, power dynamics, erotic embodiment, and intimacy held in consent-forward, community-centered spaces.
resources
Self-guided offerings for those who want to explore at their own pace, with tools that support embodied integration not just intellectual understanding.
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You’re tired of outdated narratives around sexuality and want to remove shame surrounding your sexuality
You’re exhausted from putting your desires in a box and want a space that will help you embrace those desires
You’re done not knowing what you want or how to ask for it
You are fed up with having low desire and want to fuel your passions
You want a coach who is open-minded, queer, kinky and ENM
You are interested in exploring other relationship structures
You are ready to unlock your kinkiest fantasies without shame
You are experiencing psychological ED or other forms of bodily shutdown
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Are new to kink and craving a curated, grounded journey to understand your desires
Want to explore kink, tantra, and intimacy as sacred, embodied practices
Long for deeper intimacy and more fulfilling relationships
Want to listen to your body as your intimacy compass so you know what a full-body “fuck yes” feels like
Are ready for full-body transformation that prioritizes play, not pressure
Desire a consent-forward space that celebrates bravery, curiosity, and choice
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When you step into this work, transformation looks like:
Knowing what your kinks and desires are and communicating them with ease so that you can have the hottest sexual & sensual experiences of your life
Normalizing even your wildest desires so they no longer carry shame so that you can engage in your desires on your terms
Living in sexual authenticity and weaving your sensual self into everyday life so that you can lead from your erotic center
Developing a deeper, more loving relationship with yourself so you can experience deep self-love
Feeling emotionally connected, erotically alive, and relationally sovereign so that you can live in your full erotic power
Falling in love with your kinks and having an uncensored relationship with them on your terms so that you can have kink scenes which leave you feeling deeply satisfied
This is intimacy that creates freedom, not dependence.
Confidence, not performance.
Connection, not confusion.
this space is for you if…
Meet the the shame slayer
I’m Alisa a Somatica Institute-trained sex and relationship coach, educator, and facilitator based in Fairfax, VA. I’m queer, kinky and shame-free.
My work bridges psychology, somatics, and lived experience within kink and intimacy spaces. I support individuals in de-shaming desire, navigating power dynamics, and creating relationships that feel embodied, attuned, and alive.
I believe intimacy is not something we master, it’s something we practice.